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sagesariaDear Carlos,
There is a big difference between being supportive and being abusive. Encouraging good things and giving suggestions to correct mistakes is supportive. Yelling at everyone for every little mistake they make, ordering people around like they're nothing, and physically *threatening* those who make constant mistakes, like you were doing today, is abusive.
It doesn't bother Neil, and I don't know if it bothers Eric, but it bothers me. In a game of volleyball, I don't need somebody yelling at me for something I messed up on and being accused of ruining the game. Perhaps it was my fault that we lost because I made a mistake. But it happens! Don't scream in my face about it, tell me politely how I could have prevented that. All you did all day was completely break my concentration so I would make more mistakes.
And who cares if we lost? It's only our third week of playing VB, and the class has a lot of newbies! You expect us to start playing like pros right away?
You can't win them all. Shocking, I know. Learn from your mistakes and practice to get better and then you can win. That probably feels better than taking out anger from loss on everyone who couldn't get the ball.
You're irritated teammate,
Meg
Yeah, I'm not gonna really send that, but I'm really aggravated and bitter at this guy.
There is a big difference between being supportive and being abusive. Encouraging good things and giving suggestions to correct mistakes is supportive. Yelling at everyone for every little mistake they make, ordering people around like they're nothing, and physically *threatening* those who make constant mistakes, like you were doing today, is abusive.
It doesn't bother Neil, and I don't know if it bothers Eric, but it bothers me. In a game of volleyball, I don't need somebody yelling at me for something I messed up on and being accused of ruining the game. Perhaps it was my fault that we lost because I made a mistake. But it happens! Don't scream in my face about it, tell me politely how I could have prevented that. All you did all day was completely break my concentration so I would make more mistakes.
And who cares if we lost? It's only our third week of playing VB, and the class has a lot of newbies! You expect us to start playing like pros right away?
You can't win them all. Shocking, I know. Learn from your mistakes and practice to get better and then you can win. That probably feels better than taking out anger from loss on everyone who couldn't get the ball.
You're irritated teammate,
Meg
Yeah, I'm not gonna really send that, but I'm really aggravated and bitter at this guy.
